Tuesday, 04 October 2022

Dealing With Emotions

One thing I’ve observed in my 25 plus years of counseling men, women and children is that we’re all very fragile human beings. No one is exempt from dealing with feelings – pastors, priests, doctors, carpenters, housewives, young, old, married, unmarried.

Yet, interestingly it’s easy to ignore the fact that we’re all emotional beings. So much emphasis is placed upon physical strength and health that we often disregard the need to grow emotionally stronger. I had lunch the other day with a professional leader in our community and she confessed to feeling a sense of inadequacy and a desire to withdraw from her work. Connecting intimately with people continually meant making herself vulnerable to hurt. She’s experienced rejection in the past and wanted to avoid it.

Of course, this is a natural desire, but it’s usually impossible to isolate and protect ourselves completely and forever from any hurt or disappointment. The good news is that as Christians we’re uniquely equipped to deal with “downer” emotions. We have available to us a supernatural spurt of God’s grace and favor that enables us to survive and thrive even during times of emotional upheaval.

Still, we must remember that God’s help is available always and intentionally call upon God to give us the inner fortitude we need. I’ve repeated often of late “I can do (and endure) all things through Christ who strengthens me.” My husband Wayne has suffered long term Covid lung damage that makes it impossible for him to walk more than a few feet without gasping for breath. His need for caregiving these past five months has been humbling for him – and at times quite exhausting for me physically. I’m sad to see him struggle so, but privileged to be able to care for him. God’s presence and power has literally enabled me to do what I couldn’t cheerfully and competently do otherwise. Although my schedule and priorities have totally changed God has given me a sense of emotional contentment in my new role.

I hope this will be an encouragement to you whatever you’re dealing with that you don’t live merely in the natural. You can elevate every aspect of your living to the supernatural realm and see God at work in your inner being accomplishing what you could never achieve without His gracious empowerment.

Knowing that we are constantly loved by God simply because of who He is and who we are helps us shrug off human hurts. This can free you and me from enslavement to any negative feelings thrust upon us. “What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?” Romans 8:31 New Living Translation.


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Columnist: Dr. Judith Rolfs

Judith Rolfs Dr. Judith Rolfs
An author and professional marriage and family counselor, Judith focuses on motivating adults and children to live their best lives - emotionally, physically and spiritually. In her thirties, she researched the complexity of the natural world and moved from agnosticism to faith in Jesus as her Lord and Savior. She’s written how-to books for men and women's relationships, parenting skills, and devotionals like God’s Near and Jesus Time. Judith wrote the beloved Tommy Smurlee and Grella Weller mystery fantasy series to develop children's morality, creativity and imagination. Her books on triumphing over cancer evolved from her child’s experience. “Enjoy God and love well” is Judith's life motto. Visit her website at www.judithrolfs.com  

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