Saturday, 31 July 2021

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Obstacles to Personal Development

What is the definition of personal development?  Personal development covers activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, enhance quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations.

Personal development may include the following activities:
•    improving self-awareness
•    improving self-knowledge
•    improving skills or learning new ones
•    building or renewing identity/self-esteem
•    developing strengths or talents
•    improving wealth
•    spiritual development
•    identifying or improving potential
•    enhancing lifestyle or the quality of life
•    improving health
•    fulfilling aspirations
•    improving social abilities

There are times in our lives when we realize and recognize the need and desire for personal development.  When we begin to pursue that change in our life, many times obstacles arise.  Many times these obstacles prevent us from attaining the personal development that we want to achieve.  We must recognize what the obstacles are and then work through them!

Do you have the same miserable experiences ever so often as if you're stuck in an unhealthy cycle? Repeating the same mistakes over and over without realizing it seems to go right along with being human. Or do you feel as if you are in a rut?  Do you feel unproductive?  You may need to step back and consider that you may be getting in your own way. Awareness of your own self-destructive behaviors can set you free from a cycle of failure and stagnation.  Some of the barriers to self-improvement or personal development include:

•    Poor Time Management
•    Disorganization
•    Unresolved/unfaced fears resulting in self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviors
•    Procrastination
•    blaming others for your external circumstances, for your problems or unhappiness
•    Self-pity; feeling sorry for yourself and forgetting to be grateful
•    Ego Issues: No self-confidence or fragile ego that can't be told anything and has to know it all; inability to laugh at ones self or see ones own faults
•    Victim's Mentality:  It is them against you and without some guts you'll deny this issue is holding you back until the very end
•    Entitlement Mentality: You're not sure why but everyone in your life owes you, should be able to read your mind and anticipate your needs. After all, they are all only thinking of themselves and ignoring what you need to make it through yet another crisis (that you probably caused yourself)
•    Lack of a written plan: no personal-professional development plans, your goals are not written down
•    Giving your power away, enabling, accepting abuse and remaining in unhealthy relationships
•    Escaping and avoiding personal development through your addictions

Seeking genuine personal development takes guts. It's not for the faint at heart but it is definitely worth every moment that you put into it. It does take time, it requires creating a plan and getting more honest with yourself and even getting honest with others.

No matter what your experience has been, tell yourself that YOU are worth taking time to face and overcome the obstacles to your personal development. Facing your own issues, may not be as difficult as it first appears and I believe you will be amazed and pleased at the results in your life when you begin genuinely and honestly working on your personal development.  Face these obstacles with prayer and determination!  God is there to help you overcome the obstacles and help you become the best version of you!  He is there to help you reach your goals and dreams!  He placed the passions, interests, and desires in your heart for a reason!  Trust Him to help you!


Decide today to get organized, make a plan and overcome any obstacles to your personal development that are holding you back from finding your passion for living and living the life of your dreams.  Finding your passion and living the life  of your dreams can positively impact the lives of others as well! 

Columnist: Kellye Davis Williams


Kellye Davis Stellman is a personal trainer, gym owner, and certified Life Coach who focuses on the health and well being of her clients as well as coaching them to make positive changes that will impact the rest of their lives.  She helps them achieve their health and fitness goals as well as encourages them to strive for and achieve their “life goals” with her message of hope. 

Kellye resides in East Atlanta with her husband Keith.  She has 4 daughters and 3 grandchildren.  She is an active member of The Tabernacle Church.  In her spare time she loves traveling, spending time with her husband and daughters, shopping, and simply enjoying coffee with friends. 



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