Tuesday, 04 October 2022

F Faith and Fitness


It is true that our cell phones have become something that we depend on and need for many reasons outside of making phone calls and texts.  We use our phones for photos and videos, entertainment, notes and reminders, calendars and organization, maps and navigation, online banking, address book and contacts, remote working, alarms, calculator, news and sports just name a few.  We even use our phones for a flashlight!  Because we so heavily depend on our phones I feel it is vitally important that we try our best to not let our phones become all consuming.  This happens so easily and so many people become “addicted” to their phones. 

Cell phone addiction is a subject that has become very concerning to me.  I have become hyper aware of how it is affecting others.  I recently was out to dinner and I watched all those around me with their phones.  I noticed that at every single table around me,  the people were consumed and distracted with their cell phones...including the people at my own table.  Is there so much to access on your phone and is so important  that you can’t put it down for some time with those you choose to set aside time for and  “spend time” with? Is there so much on your phone that takes importance and precedence over giving the people you are with 100% of your attention?  Cell phones have caused us to become so disconnected from people and our quality of life in my opinion. 

I fully realize that there are things we absolutely have to use our phones for daily.  Personally I use my phone as I’m working and for my job.   I understand this is the case for many people.  I also use it to stay connected to my daughters when we aren’t together or quickly available to talk on the phone.  I use it for banking, alarms, calculator, news, etc.  But, I absolutely limit my use.  If there is no important reason for me to have my phone in my hands, I put my phone down and engage with people and engage in my life in other ways.  I do not want my phone to take away so much time that I will never get back. That sounds extreme I know.  But let me put this in perspective.  After doing weeks of research,  I have learned that most people use their phones 25 to 30 hours a week.  That’s the average.  Lots of people use their phones more than that.  If you have an IPhone, now there is a way to track your screen time and even how many times you pick your phone up in a day.  I challenge you to go to this setting (Under settings go to “Screentime”.  You can see your weekly average and daily average)  and take a look at your time spent on your phone.  Take a look at how many times you pick your phone up in a day.  If you are using your phone more than 25 to 30 hours a week, you may have a cell phone addiction and problem.  Let’s put this in perspective a little more.  If you are using your phone over 30 hours a week, that’s basically the amount of time people put into their hours at work in a week.  So in essence it’s like a full time job. Your phone has become a full time job!

I feel there are definite signs of cell phone addiction when your phone overrides your safety, your relationships, and even your spirituality.  If you are driving and you touch your phone for any reason you are compromising your safety and the safety of those with you and other drivers.  If you are checking social media as you are driving, this is an addiction problem.  If you are in church and you’re doing the same, this is an addiction problem.  If you are supposed to be spending quality time with others, and you are doing this,  it is an addiction problem.  As I’ve done research for this article and observed others with their phones, I have watched people that literally cannot put their phones down for more than a couple of minutes.  They pick up their phones every couple of minutes to go on social media, etc.  If you have a hard time occupying your time with anything else but your phone for a period of time, you have an addiction.  I encourage you to follow this link to see where you stand as far as cell phone addiction. ( virtual-addiction.com )

It’s impossible to disconnect completely from our phones.  But we all need to take a long, hard look at how much our phone is consuming our time...which takes away from so much of our lives in so many areas.  30+ hours a week on your phone!  You will never get that time back!  Imagine the difference in the quality and quantity of your life if you invested the same amount of time you spend on your phone into relationships, projects, helping others, furthering your knowledge/skills, your relationship with God, just to name a few!  Focusing that time on those things rather than your phone and what your phone has to offer would be life altering!

You get to pick how you “show up” in circumstances and moments in your every day world.  Be present with the people and moments that are right in front of you over being present with people and moments through your phone screen! 

Columnist: Kellye Davis Williams


Kellye Davis Stellman is a personal trainer, gym owner, and certified Life Coach who focuses on the health and well being of her clients as well as coaching them to make positive changes that will impact the rest of their lives.  She helps them achieve their health and fitness goals as well as encourages them to strive for and achieve their “life goals” with her message of hope. 

Kellye resides in East Atlanta with her husband Keith.  She has 4 daughters and 3 grandchildren.  She is an active member of The Tabernacle Church.  In her spare time she loves traveling, spending time with her husband and daughters, shopping, and simply enjoying coffee with friends. 



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