Saturday, 06 June 2020

P Power of Positive Faith

Value or Disrespect

I don’t mind giving advice, but one area that I hate to give advice in is the area that deals with abusive people, especially mentally abusive people. Some of the stories I hear infuriate me and the person can be so terrible that I find myself wanting to punch them! But I would never do that and that would not be my advice to you either. I don’t want to ever advise anyone to give up on anything; yet, I struggle telling you to stay with anyone who treats you like crap.

I believe in tenacity, diligence, dedication and hard work. If you want something out of life, you got to do your part. One of my mottos could be that diligence pays off. Yet, I want to tell the person who feels inadequate because of the actions of another person to leave. It is easy to sit in a chair and write pretty advice.  It is easy to say what you should do once I have overcome my own challenge of having to deal with a nasty person.  So I won’t write the pretty advice but I will be straight up with you.  If you have a nasty, negative person who is mentally abusive, who depresses you, dishonors you, disrespects you and you don’t think that person will ever change, leave; disconnect from them.

That’s my advice. Leave.  Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”, and I agree with her. That lady was one wise woman.

I have told you on many occasions how destructive words can be.  When you stay with a person, whether that person is a spouse, friend or boss, who has little interest in uplifting you or in making your life better, why are you staying with them?

You don’t rely on others to make you happy; that’s not what I am saying, that’s your responsibility.  What I am saying is that disinterest or detachment from you is one thing, but disrespect is quite another.

I am not saying to just walk out on your marriage or quit your job when you have an abusive or narcissistic person to deal with. That’s a decision that only you can make. I just want to remind you that you are valuable and you are important. It doesn’t matter if you are the janitor or the CEO; a housewife or an executive. And just so you know, even if you are dependent on a person for whatever that does not give them the right to disrespect you.

I can’t tell you what is enough; I can only tell you that you are enough. “For we (you) are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that (you) we would walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10.

Columnist: LaSharnda Beckwith


Dr. LaSharnda Beckwith, PhD, MBAA, MA, BPS, is an Empowerment Advocate, personal life coach, motivational speaker & leadership expert. She knows that in order for anyone to experience success in their personal or professional lives, there must be a fundamental change in attitude. One cannot be or think negatively and expect positive results. In addition, she loves to interact where she can encourage, enable, empower and energize others.  She is a retired executive of more than 26 years with the Army & Air Force Exchange Service. She retired as Vice President of Eastern Operations. She is currently a Professor in the School of Management at Texas Woman’s University. She is an author and talk show host. Her new book, When You're Happy With You focuses on helping others find value, build self confidence, self-esteem and confront issues that may be holding them back and is currently available online through, and  Her radio talk show “Living Happy Every Day with Dr. LaSharnda” can be heard on, channel 1.





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