Wednesday, 27 January 2021

P Power of Positive Faith

Don't be a Gossip

Have you ever thought about why people gossip? After being the object of gossip and having my feelings hurt over things I have heard about myself, I have sat and contemplated the “why” many times. I used to get stressed, and even distressed, over the horrible things people would say about me. Over the years I have learned to let it go and to never try to figure out why. There are no valid reasons for gossip because people who participate in it, do not need a reason. My concern goes much deeper than the silliness of gossip; I am more concerned with why we, as Christians, participate in it.

 It is frustrating to see Christians participate in gossip. I can hear the comments now; Christians are humans too. Look, I know that. However, there is still a standard that we are suppose to live by. So stop saying, “Christians are humans too” and start acknowledging what the Bible tells us what appropriate behavior is supposed to be for us.

The Bible in no uncertain terms instructs us not to gossip, not to be idle, not to participate in actions that hurt other people. Yet, I see it all the time and to be quite frank, it is so distasteful and negative. My goal in life is to live a happy, positive and productive life. If you are trying to do the same, distance yourself from negative behaviors like this one and from negative people who participate in it.

Idle gossip has never been a positive action. It has destroyed long term friendships, wrecked reputations and careers and hurt people in general. Not to mention that gossiping is a sin. 

They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Although they know God's righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them. Romans Ch.1:29-32

The Bible says in Proverbs chapter 16 and verse 28 “ …a gossip separates close friends.”

Gossip is negative. Gossip does nothing to build anyone up; instead it tears down.

Our goal in life should be to live happy and live with purpose. It should be to grow and grow until the day we leave this earth. If we do that, we would have no time to be idle, gossipy or in the middle of mess. Yes, I know that we are only human, but again, that’s a sorry excuse for bad & negative behavior. If we put our hands to work and into being productive, we would be so busy with God’s purpose for our lives that we will not have time for meddling in the lives of others.

I am convinced that many are miserable with life and cannot live happy because they are too busy with the lives of others. I love the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible; there is so much wisdom found there.  In chapter 3, verses 12-13, it says “I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil---this is the gift of God.” See what I mean?

I believe that most of us want to do good and to be successful and to live purposeful lives.  If someone you know creates the negative atmosphere that gossip brings, or if you are  that person, there is help. Do a little self-evaluation. Look deep inside yourself and ask yourself, why do I participate in this? And if the behavior is something that you truly do not want to be involved in, acknowledge it and take steps to stop it. How? If you hang around those who do it, stop hanging around them. If you find yourself in the middle of doing it, recognize it and tell yourself that you are doing it and simply stop.

You are responsible for your life. You are responsible for the positives and negatives; only you. Don’t make excuses, don’t blame anyone else and don’t say, “I am only human.”  Just acknowledge what’s wrong, take responsibility and decide to stop it. You will develop into a better you and those you influence in life will certainly grow from what they see in you.

Columnist: LaSharnda Beckwith


Dr. LaSharnda Beckwith, PhD, MBAA, MA, BPS, is an Empowerment Advocate, personal life coach, motivational speaker & leadership expert. She knows that in order for anyone to experience success in their personal or professional lives, there must be a fundamental change in attitude. One cannot be or think negatively and expect positive results. In addition, she loves to interact where she can encourage, enable, empower and energize others.  She is a retired executive of more than 26 years with the Army & Air Force Exchange Service. She retired as Vice President of Eastern Operations. She is currently a Professor in the School of Management at Texas Woman’s University. She is an author and talk show host. Her new book, When You're Happy With You focuses on helping others find value, build self confidence, self-esteem and confront issues that may be holding them back and is currently available online through, and  Her radio talk show “Living Happy Every Day with Dr. LaSharnda” can be heard on, channel 1.





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