Wednesday, 27 January 2021

P Power of Positive Faith

Frustration Hurts You!!!

There are times that my impatience with others causes me to have deeply felt anger or frustration.  These feelings end up affecting me more than they affect the ones who I have allowed to create these feelings in me. I get agitated with the person and if I am not careful, and although I know better, I can very easily take out my frustrations on others.  It is hard for me to settle down and I get mad with myself for feeling as I do.

What’s the trick in helping people like me get over being controlled by those negative emotions? First, give yourself permission to take a break. I mean a real break. Stop what you are doing, think about what you are allowing your mind to think about, get a mug of hot tea, breathe deeply and now take captive your thoughts.

When we learn to think about what we are thinking about and then to take action steps in deciding on what we will think about; not letting our minds just carry us away, we have made a huge positive step.  We have said “no” in allowing our minds to control us and to create all types of negative imaginations about what has happened to us.  In fact, we have said to our minds, “you’re not in control of my feelings; I am.”  Then, be in control of your feelings.

There will always be someone or something that will frustrate you.  It could be that you had to pay an unexpected bill; you didn’t meet your goals; you counted on someone and they didn’t do their part; or you developed an illness. You see most of these are uncontrollable and as such, you should not take full responsibility for them by taking on the frustrations of them when they don’t pan out the way you would have liked.

That’s what we do, don’t we? We readily take on the responsibility of uncontrollable things and for other people who we can’t control either. I decided, this very day, that not all the frustrations that I encounter have to be frustrations at all. They can be comical events! I can make them comical if instead of getting frustrated, I decide to laugh at them; that’s right, laugh!

I can sit down with a cup of tea, take a deep breath, read God’s word that reminds me to “think about things that are pure, noble, honest, trustworthy and anything that has virtue. Then I need to remind myself that I don’t control the actions of others and I don’t control all of life’s circumstances either. Do you know what the one thing is that I can control? My reactions to my circumstances.

I know you have heard it all before and this may seem clique’ but the fact of the matter is, we can decide, choose, determine, how we will respond to things that frustrate us, overwhelm us or those things that anger us. Frustration and anger are designed to drain us of any positive energy.  Once we have succumbed to that energy drain, we are susceptible to negative behaviors that do not enhance who we are; it takes away from our inner and outer beauty. We are supposed to be the light of the world where our lights shine bright. We are to be beacons that help illuminate positivity in a world that so many times seems to be on the bleak of disaster.  We are called to change our environments and to enhance where we are and touch the people we encounter.  That can’t be done when we are being influenced by negativity.

You see frustration hurts. It hurts our minds, our attitudes, our actions and our interactions.  The good news is we don’t have to let frustration control us.  “God is our refuge and strength…”  That’s what we need to always remember.  Laugh and the world laughs with you is a true statement.  Instead of getting angry when things don’t go my way, I will make every effort to laugh. I hope you will try to do the same!

Columnist: LaSharnda Beckwith


Dr. LaSharnda Beckwith, PhD, MBAA, MA, BPS, is an Empowerment Advocate, personal life coach, motivational speaker & leadership expert. She knows that in order for anyone to experience success in their personal or professional lives, there must be a fundamental change in attitude. One cannot be or think negatively and expect positive results. In addition, she loves to interact where she can encourage, enable, empower and energize others.  She is a retired executive of more than 26 years with the Army & Air Force Exchange Service. She retired as Vice President of Eastern Operations. She is currently a Professor in the School of Management at Texas Woman’s University. She is an author and talk show host. Her new book, When You're Happy With You focuses on helping others find value, build self confidence, self-esteem and confront issues that may be holding them back and is currently available online through, and  Her radio talk show “Living Happy Every Day with Dr. LaSharnda” can be heard on, channel 1.





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