Monday, 13 July 2020

P Power of Positive Faith

Turning Jealously into Joy

I have often wondered why jealousy seems to be such an easy emotion to experience.  Some may say that this statement isn’t true, but I don’t know that I agree. I believe that jealousy is natural like

tears, when one is sad or smiles when one is happy; jealousy seems to easily rear its ugly head in us when others experience small and big successes.

We get rubbed the wrong way just hearing someone else talk about their successes and their happiness.  Even when we try to be happy for them, jealousy seems to be right in our ears, whispering and telling us that what the other person have, they don’t deserve and who is better deserving than you?

This is an uneasy subject, yet  jealousy happens and it has happened since the beginning of time. In fact, Cain was jealous of Abel because he had God’s favor; so jealous that he murdered him. Sarah was jealous of Hagar; Jacob was jealous of Esau’s favor with their father and stole Esau’s birthright. We might not physically murder one another, but there can be all types of murder.  We can murder others with our mouths, our actions or we can murder their mental and emotional states.  Jealousy isn’t a positive emotional response. It is negative and it is destructive and we feel as we do, many times, because we compare our lives with the lives of others. Doing that does nothing to help us become better people.

I can almost guarantee that the only way we can overcome this particular insecurity is to have someone to replace that emptiness and inadequacy we feel about ourselves.  The only way we can rise above feeling “less than” is to see ourselves through the eyes of someone who is worthy; and that’s not other mere humans. It is through the eyes of someone who thinks that we are more than enough; and that person, my friend,  is Jesus. It is through Him that begin to transform our minds and our hearts.

There are many reasons why the Bible cautions us to be aware of jealous tendencies.  It is harmful to us and can be towards others.  James 3:16 tells us that “… where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” When something is vile, it is unpleasant.  Who wants to be unpleasant? I don’t think that we really want to be that way.  But if we are not aware and if we do not not guard our minds, we can all fall into this area of darkness. Vile practices can also include carrying deeply embedded hatred in one’s heart for a person who might be excelling; my question is “why?” Don’t we all want to be successful?

The only advice I can offer about how to control being jealous is to intentionally give your laser focus to what God says to each of us; love one another. Secondly, I was told long ago to begin celebrating others when they succeed. I was told to genuinely feel good for them. I wondered how could I do that for someone I just didn’t like, felt that they were evil and did not deserve what they were celebrating? For some reason as my relationship with God grew closer, the more I began to listen to Him and I wanted to please Him. I honestly still struggle with celebrating some people that I just don’t care for so I pray for them first and pray for myself. I think that’s a good start.

Columnist: LaSharnda Beckwith


Dr. LaSharnda Beckwith, PhD, MBAA, MA, BPS, is an Empowerment Advocate, personal life coach, motivational speaker & leadership expert. She knows that in order for anyone to experience success in their personal or professional lives, there must be a fundamental change in attitude. One cannot be or think negatively and expect positive results. In addition, she loves to interact where she can encourage, enable, empower and energize others.  She is a retired executive of more than 26 years with the Army & Air Force Exchange Service. She retired as Vice President of Eastern Operations. She is currently a Professor in the School of Management at Texas Woman’s University. She is an author and talk show host. Her new book, When You're Happy With You focuses on helping others find value, build self confidence, self-esteem and confront issues that may be holding them back and is currently available online through, and  Her radio talk show “Living Happy Every Day with Dr. LaSharnda” can be heard on, channel 1.





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